Brenda Di BariCHAPTER 2.

Liberating Your Vision.

In the previous chapter, we explored together what is most valuable to you. In the chapter exercise you discovered for yourself the elements of life that you most enjoy, and that you care about the most. Although at first this may have seemed like a lighthearted exercise, this circle holds an incredible amount of personal character and individual value. What is contained within your paper circle are all the elements that uniquely make up you!

There is no one else on this planet who has the exact same array of likes and dislikes as you, or that gather together the characteristics that you uniquely offer the world. Discovering and embracing what makes you so individually you are what much of my work is all about. I am here to facilitate empowerment in many ways, and to be a guiding light in your personal development journey.

This chapter is designed to help you embrace all of who you are, down to the crucial small details.

No matter where you live or what personal or professional pathway you choose to take, these are the details that never change. It’s important to remember that no matter what you might face in life, the integrity of your character can never be taken away. These are the individual components that make you, you.

When clients come to me with request for help in finding a property, I start with getting to know who they are. Instead of simply matching property descriptions to initial statements, I work with my clients on a more personal level in order to work out what would fit them best in the short- and long-term future. I can tell you, after a period of time working together it often works out to be a very different vision to what they thought they wanted, or even deserved.

We all have past experiences that contribute to who we are and how we think. Often, our measure of self-esteem is defined by past traumas, individual successes, and everything in between. What you have been through and all you have experienced makes up a large part of your identity. But other people’s opinions of you, or their responses to your movements, should never define your value.

You hold the empowerment keys to your life, no one else.

This next exercise is a question based one that will encourage you to venture a little further beneath the surface of the initial likes and dislikes you identified in the previous chapter:


We very rarely find the time to spend time exploring our true feelings about where our life is headed, and how we really feel about where we have already ventured in our past. The questions within this exercise are designed to encourage authentic, deeper consideration about your personal motivations. Quality questions lead to quality answers, although there is no ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ here.

You will need:

1x notebook

1x pen


Open your notebook to an empty page. Take a deep breath and roll your shoulders back to allow space for your lungs to fully expand. Think about breathing deep into the base of your belly, to encourage a better quality of breath.


List out the following questions, allowing a full page of space for each one;

  • What did I think of first when I woke this morning?
  • Do I have what I need to take my life where I want it to go?
  • If my dreams were possible, where would I be in 5 years?
  • Who and what makes me happy in my life?
  • If money were no object, what would change in my life?
  • When I feel like giving up, what keeps me going?


When you are ready, answer each of the listed questions in turn. Remain honest as you do so. Remember, these answers are simply thoughts of yours surfacing and taking some light. You can modify your answers later on if you wish. For now, let the words flow without fear.


When your writing comes to a natural finish, take a short break. You may find that you need a few breaks within the writing process, especially if any unexpected emotions are triggered. If you do become overwhelmed at any stage, be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that this is an incredibly empowering process – one that will lead you forwards in your journey in only positive ways.


Read through your writing a few days after it has been completed. You may well be astonished at what you have shared with yourself and what true feelings have emerged. Keep hold of your notebook. This is your personal starting point. It could also become an incredible tool for us to work from if we are to work together in the future.